People can no more voluntarily maintain control of their sexual identity experience than they can control their breathing.
People can control their breathing or sexual orientation for a few minutes.
Like breathing, people can hold an ‘as-if’ sexual identity briefly or speed it up or slow it down, or do it deeply or quietly and in shallow fashion. Breathing can be irregular, explosive, asthmatic, blue bloaters and pink puffers, medicated with tobacco, pot; so can sexual identity being, but eventually over the long haul both breathing and sexual identities eventually conclude to the embryological baseline.
Very little indeed is so awesome as the under-informed or ill-informed in action. Moral tragedies may happen when such well-intended frames sway the day.
Forget about seriously meandering in the gender identity disorder (GID). A person’s gender identity is just that, that person’s gender identity and not in and of itself a ‘disorder’. Disorders may occur in any person no matter what their gender identity is. They may be unhappy, depressed, manic, have influenza or lung cancer. Their identity however is what it is and it is not a disorder per se.
“Gender/Sexual” ‘identity’ experience across lifetimes is symphonic with individual key signatures, lyrical range, evolution and progression. The first movement starts with sounds of nutrition and health contributed by donors of sperm and egg. The evolution of timbre is determined by the gestational uterus. Nutrition and health remain basic throughout musical continuity. Now social overtones. Mother is now the conductor and the beauty of the music depends on the skills of the sections sensing the first violinist.